You may have not even realized you were pregnant. Or maybe you did for a split of a moment. Then, you were no more.
15 – 25% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage. 80% of all miscarriage happens withing the first trimester.
Maybe it happened spontaneously, or maybe you had to make a choice to terminate the pregnancy. Either way, it is important to process this loss with a specialized psychologist.
The death of a baby is always a tragedy. It will be painful for both the parents and for other family and friends.
The loss of your pregnancy at any stage can have a big impact on you and your partner. One day you are pregnant and planning your future life with your child, and then within a short time, your pregnancy ends, and your dreams and plans are gone.
These feelings can be very intense. It is important to remember that they will reduce with time. It is also important to remember that your own experience is unique and you have the right to recover in your own way and in your own time.
You will need recuperation time, especially to recover emotionally. Try to reduce challenges as much as possible and allow yourself time to be with people with whom you are comfortable. Give yourself as much time as you need to recover.
Whatever your feelings, allow yourself time to grieve, to cry, and to talk about the emotions you feel. Do not expect too much of yourself.
It can be a big help to find someone you can talk to who will listen and understand.
You may benefit from contacting a support group (such as SANDS) and talking to other parents who have had a similar experience.
Common causes of miscarriage on first trimester:
- Embryo receives abnormal number of chromosomes during fertilization
- RH negative/positive
- Chronic diseases
- High blood pressure
- Thyroid disease
- PCOS – Polycystic Ovary Syndrome
There are many reasons and no reason at all why a miscarriage happen. You may feel guilty for your body not been able to hold the baby, or for behaviors you think it may caused the miscarriage. You may be right. Either way, you will need support from a specialized psychologist.
Pregnancy was not in your plans, or it was at the wrong time, and wrong situation, and you have the make the utmost difficult decision to terminate your pregnancy. Furthermore, due to the political arena in which we live now, you don't even know who you can turn to to talk about your feelings without being further blamed and ashamed. Finding a specialized psychologist to help you heal is essential.
Multiple pregnancies or a malformed fetus puts you in a position to have to choose for a forced abortion. Having to go through a D &C (or D&E) is something you have never imagine when you started your dream of having a baby. This is a difficult life time experience and you should find support from a specialized psychologist.
The emotional issues derived from losing a baby in the first trimester are many, to mention:
- Sleep issues
- Eating Issues
- Somatic Issues
A specialized psychologist can help you and your partner heal from these deep wounds and process your loss.
Reasons why women chose to go through a voluntary abortion:
- Ectopic pregnancy – Fertilized egg stays on Fallopian tube
- Faulty fetus development
- Multiple fetuses
- No income/job
- Multiple children
- Not in a stable relationship
- In a toxic relationship
- Rape / Drugs / Alcohol
- College students
STATISTICS ON PREGNANCY LOSS
- 50 % OF ALL PREGNANCIES END IN MISCARRIAGE
- OFTEN BEFORE A WOMAN MISSES A MENSTRUAL PERIOD OR EVEN KNOWS SHE IS PREGNANT
- 15-25% OF RECOGNIZED PREGNANCIES WILL END IN A MISCARRIAGE
- AFTER HAVING MISSED A PERIOD
- 80% OF MISCARRIAGES OCCUR WITHIN THE FIRST 3 MONTHS OF PREGNANCY