It was no longer a secret. Your belly started showing a little. You told people. The doctor said that after the first trimester, the possibility of losing the baby was much smaller.
Yet, here you are. The baby is no more. There is no more heart beat. There is no more thinking of the future with a baby. You may have not even known the gender of your baby. But you heard her/his heart.
15 to 18% of all miscarriages happen at this time.
Reasons why miscarriage happens at this age:
- Cervix Insufficiency
- Incomplete or weak cervix
You may had a spontaneous miscarriage or a voluntary (or forced) abortion.
Either way, there are a plethora of feelings that you will need the help of a specialized therapist to help process them.
Everybody knew. You were showing. People started planning baby showers. You may have learned the gender. You may have started thinking of a name. Now there was no heartbeat. The baby did not thrive / survived. This devastating news should be followed by a consultation with a specialized psychologist for both partners.
You had a baby shower. People celebrated. Names were chosen. Furniture were bought and rooms have been painted. And all of the sudden there was no heart beat. He/she did not come to be.
Stages of baby loss:
- Early loss – 20 to 27 weeks
- Late loss – 28 to 36 weeks
- Term loss – 37 + weeks
This experience should be followed by a proper funeral to help with the healing with this loss. Either way, both partners would benefit greatly to have a consultation with a specialized psychologist.
After 40 weeks of anticipation and preparation, the day came. You went to the hospital with a full belly... and came home with empty hands. There are no words that people know to express their sorrow for your experience. So, people get quiet and don't talk about it. So, it is very important for both partners and children (and extended family) to get help and support from a specialized psychologist.
Stillbirth happens in 1% of all pregnancies = 24.000 baby death /year; while the same percentage (1%) occurs n the first days/months of delivery.
SID (Sudden Infant Death)
occurs in 1% (200.000+) of all babies in the first days/months after delivery.
Possible causes of stillbirth:
- Abnormality of the baby
- Problems with the placenta
- Poor growth (Fail to thrive)
- Umbilical cord accidents
- No cause
OTHER FACTORS THAT CAN HELP ON LOSING A BABY AT THIS STAGE:
- Being a Teenager
- Being 35 or older
- Cigarettes during pregnancy
- Drugs during pregnancy
- Medical conditions
- Multiple pregnancies
- Previous pregnancy loss
Your experience is unique to you. Yet, there are many people who experienced the same loss and have also not talked about it.
Losing a baby can have long-lasting effects in both partners and their children.
Please contact us to learn how you can benefit from grief counseling.
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